Legal definition of sexual assault




In 1965, after completing a course to be a dental assistant, I was sent to ‘intern’ in a pedodontist dental office in Covina, California for a month, with no remuneration. It was considered an ‘opportunity’ for ‘training on site’.

The dentist fired his assistant two weeks later and I was the only assistant in the office for the next two weeks–free help. I was a good observer and the former assistant did a good job of training me. When the month ended, I was hired by the dentist, a married Mormon with ten children and a very nice wife.

The position was salaried, paid once a month, with no over time, or medical insurance.

At the time, I weighed about 150lbs. and had just turned 18 years old. I was very good with the child patients. I was a very good employee. I worked many evenings and Saturdays without complaint because toothaches do not always occur according to office hours. I loved my job.

One day while waiting for the doctor to join me in the procedure room, I sat on his stool chatting and calming a little patient, who was nervous. The doctor walked into the room and told me to “get off my stool. With what you weigh, you’ll break it.” I felt crest fallen and obediently climbed off the stool and never again sat on it.

About every four-six months a new “intern” from the dental assistant school would be placed in our office for me to train, but I retained my job, until…….

One day the doctor told me that he had released the janitorial services and it would now be part of my job to clean the office on the week-ends. I had been training a new ‘intern’ for about two weeks.

I was surprised by this announcement and went home to tell my mother, who said I should ask the doctor how much extra I would be paid for doing the cleaning.

I returned to the office and at the end of the day asked to speak with the doctor so I could ask him how much I would be paid for cleaning the office.  I said, “I have been thinking about the new expectation for me to clean the office and think I should be remunerated for it.” He said, “No, it’s part of the job.” “Well, if there is no remuneration, then I’m afraid I will have to leave.” He agreed that I should leave.

Good Ol’ Boys

I interviewed with several other dentists in the area. When asked why I left my old job, I explained about the additional office cleaning expectation without remuneration. I’ll never forget the response of one doctor. “You mean to say, that if you saw a piece of paper on the floor you wouldn’t pick it up without being paid for it?!”

Of course, that’s not at all what I was saying, but at the time, the ‘good ol’ boy’ system among doctors and dentists was impenetrable. (Hopefully that has changed for the better)

I took a job working behind the soda fountain at Woolworth’s Department Store and my mother was appalled! She kept saying, “YOU are wasting your education!” Finally, I returned to the job I had in high school at a Chinese To-Go restaurant and sang in folk coffee houses whenever I had the chance.

Personal Improvement

I made a visit to my family doctor for something unrelated, but he lectured me about being “over-weight”. I told him I was a singer and most opera singers are “over-weight”. He assured me I would, “sing better if you lose weight!” and then prescribed Tenuate Dospan diet pills. I accelerated the weight loss by only drinking a diet soda and eating one sandwich a day. It was a NOT healthy, but definitely a quick way to lose the weight.

About four months later, my former employer called asking if I would, “come back to work.” I said, “If I don’t have to come in on week-ends to clean”, to which he agreed.

During this time, I also auditioned for a ‘talent’ contest to be held at MELODYLAND, the theatre in the round in Orange County. Besides preparing music, the contest had a bathing suit competition component. I told my employer about my audition and he wanted to see me walk in my bathing suit because, he said, “You will need to walk in a certain way for this kind of competition.” I thought he was trying to help me and agreed to put on my suit for him to watch me walk…Yes! I was that naive, and that’s when the sexual harassment began.

At first it was slipping his hand around my waist while I was washing dental instruments. I told my mother and father what was going on. My father said, “You must be doing something to encourage him.” I was shocked and upset by my father’s words. My mother said, “YOU do not have to put up with this. Tell him to stop.”

So, I went back to work and the next time the doctor put his arm around my waist I said, “Please don’t do that.” He just smiled and he did stop for a bit, but then one day he patted my bottom. I was speechless. A little later that day he said to me, “You know, you are so good, you should be a Mormon.” I replied, “I’m so good, I don’t need to be.” I was fired.

No Help for the Good Miss

At this point in time, there was no agency, no board, no one with whom to file a complaint about this man/doctor. Sexual harassment was a term that didn’t exist, nor was considered a problem. Women were expected to ‘handle’ it and to ‘expect’ it as a normal part of the give and take between men and women regardless of the circumstances.

A month later

I interviewed with a new doctor and during the interview when he asked me what I wanted in the job I replied, “Well, I’d like to be paid weekly instead of monthly because some months have 5 weeks, and if I’m paid monthly during those months I’m working a week for free. And….,” I gulped, “there can’t be any patting on the bottom.” The doctor looked at me aghast, then said, “I agree with your demands. But, I have to tell you I’m a U.S.C. grad and you wore UCLA colors today, so be sure not to wear those again. Deal?”

Several months later, I received a phone call from the first dentist, asking me to come back to work for him. I declined, telling him I was happy with my new job. He called 4 more times over the next couple of years. During the last call he asked me what I was being paid and said he would match my salary.

I was visibly upset when I returned to the patient where my doctor was working. He looked at me and asked who had called me. I told him, “Dr. Brown. He keeps calling wanting me to come back to work for him. I’ve told him I’m not interested and this time he asked me how much I’m being paid.”

My doctor grew red in the face, finished his part of the procedure and left without a word. I finished up and released the patient. When Dr. Beyer returned to the chair he said, “Dr. Brown will not be bothering you anymore.” I was so relieved!

BTW: Dr. Beyer was also a married Mormon, with three children and a lovely wife.


Today, I would have the right to turn Dr. Brown into the EQUAL EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITY COMMISSION. We no longer have to put up with this kind of treatment from men in the workplace, and most especially, a boss.

Below is some important information from the National Women’s Law Center FAQ page.

Sexual Harassment
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What is sexual harassment?

Sexual harassment is a form of sex discrimination. As a result, when it occurs on the job it violates the laws against sex discrimination in the workplace, including Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964.

It is unwelcome behavior that happens to you because of your sex. Frequently the fact that it’s sexual is a clear sign that, but for your sex, you would not have been targeted.

It includes:

Unwelcome sexual advances
Request for sexual favors, or
Verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature

Submission to or rejection of such conduct is used as the basis for employment decisions or is made a condition of employment (called quid pro quo harassment, or harassment resulting in a tangible employment action)
Such conduct is sufficiently severe or pervasive that it creates an intimidating, hostile, or offensive work environment (called hostile environment harassment)
2. Does sexual harassment have to involve sex?

No. Conduct that is sexual in nature but does not include any sexual activity is still sexual harassment. Behavior that is “sexual in nature” includes most situations people think of when they think of sexual harassment: sexual advances, repeated requests for dates, lewd remarks, pornographic pictures, or sexual jokes. Harassment does not have to involve any physical contact at all — words alone may be enough.

3. What if the harassment is not sexual in nature, but is still directed at me because I am a woman?

Non-sexual conduct can still be unlawful if it singles you out because of your gender. For example, if your supervisor says he doesn’t think a woman should have your job and deliberately insults or ridicules you or gives you impossible tasks because you are a woman, that is harassment and it is illegal.

4. Is it possible to be sexually harassed by someone who is the same sex as I am?

Yes. Males can sexually harass males, and females can sexually harass females. The key question the law asks is whether the conduct itself would have occurred if the victim had been of a different sex. If this has happened to you, report the misconduct to someone in a position of authority, and use your employer’s internal grievance policy. Be aware, however, that Title VII does not apply to harassment on the basis of sexual orientation.

5. Is it possible to be harassed by someone who is not my supervisor?

Yes. The harasser does not have to be your supervisor for the harassment to be illegal. Employers have a responsibility to provide a workplace free from sexual harassment, whether the harasser is your supervisor, a supervisor in another department, a co-worker, a subordinate, or even a customer or client.

6. What should I do if I believe that I am being sexually harassed at work?

You should inform the harasser that you want the unwelcome behavior to stop, unless you fear it will jeopardize your physical safety or your job. Direct communication with the harasser is often more effective than merely ignoring the behavior. Make it clear what behavior you object to and ask that it stop. If verbal requests are not effective, write the harasser a memo asking him to stop. You can also tell someone else in a position of authority whom you trust.

You should also use your employer’s internal complaint or sexual harassment procedures and promptly report any incidents of harassment. If you are part of a union, you can contact your union representative and ask about grievance procedures under your contract. Going through these internal procedures may not be enough to stop the harassment, but if you unreasonably fail to take advantage of any preventive or corrective opportunities provided by your employer, your employer may be able to avoid legal liability for the harassment, depending on the circumstances. Employers should also treat the complaint process as confidential, though the harasser and potential witnesses will have to be contacted in an investigation.

It is also a good idea to document the harassment and your work performance.

Keep a journal of the harassment. Keep a written record describing each incident of harassment, including what happened, where, on what date, and who else was present. Do this as soon as possible after the incident, and note the date and time you are writing it down. Keep updating the journal as new incidents occur. In some cases employers have destroyed journals left at work, so keep it at home. This written record can be important evidence in later internal investigations or legal actions.
Keep copies of any offensive notes or pictures and any notes or documents that relate to the harassment.
Keep copies of your work records, including copies of your performance evaluations and any memoranda or letters documenting the quality of your work. A harasser may try to defend himself by attacking your job performance.
Network with others. If you can, talk to others at work about the harassment. You may find witnesses, allies, or others that have been harassed by the same person or are concerned and would be willing to help.
Tell supportive friends, family members, and colleagues about the abuse. Telling others about the harassment not only can give you much needed support, but it can also be important evidence later.
If these steps do not end the harassment, you may want to consider taking legal action.

7. What can I expect if I internally report the harassment?

Internal procedures differ in individual companies, but these are some generalities:

You can expect your employer to promptly investigate your claim. It is illegal for employers to retaliate against employees for bringing or participating in complaints, so you should cooperate with any investigation. The investigator will need to know all the details of the harassment, however hard or embarrassing they may be to reveal, including information such as the names of any potential witnesses or other victims of the same harasser, a chronology of what happened and when, specific descriptions of the offensive conduct, and any reasons why you delayed reporting the harassment (if you did).

You should also expect your employer to take remedial action if it determines that sexual harassment or some other inappropriate behavior did occur. Disciplinary actions might include oral or written warnings, deferral of a raise or promotion, demotion or reassignment, suspension, or discharge. Your employer might also require counseling for the harasser. Be aware that just because an employer disciplines the harasser, that does not necessarily mean that the conduct is severe enough to legally qualify as sexual harassment.

8. Can my employer punish me for complaining about sexual harassment?

No. If an employer retaliates against you for bringing harassment to the attention of management or in response to your filing a complaint, that is against the law and is a separate violation of Title VII, in addition to the harassment itself. If you have an attorney, be sure to discuss the retaliation with him or her, and if you are filing a complaint or grievance, be sure to include any retaliatory actions.

9. What kind of injury do I have to suffer before I have a legal claim for sexual harassment?

You do not have to be fired, demoted, or suffer any economic, physical, or psychological harm before you can bring a claim for sexual harassment. Having to endure sexual harassment at your job is injury enough – it is discrimination and it is illegal.

10. When is my employer legally responsible for the sexual harassment committed by its employees?

An employer is always legally responsible if the harasser was your supervisor and tied the harassment to decisions about your job or the conditions you work in. The fact that the highest managers of the company did not know about the harassment does not make the company any less responsible.

If your supervisor created a hostile work environment, the company is also responsible, unless the company took care to prevent and correct harassment, but you unreasonably failed to use the company’s policies. This defense is why it’s important for you to use your employer’s internal procedures as a first step toward ending the harassment.

If the harasser is a co-worker or someone else, your employer may be liable, but its responsibility is not automatic. It is liable if it knew about the harassment or should have known about it, unless it took immediate and appropriate corrective action.

11. What if I want to take legal action?

You have a right to file a complaint with the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), which enforces Title VII and has regional offices throughout the country. To be connected with the nearest EEOC regional office, call 1-800-669-4000. There are also state and local laws against sex discrimination, and state and local agencies with authority to enforce them. They may be listed under “human rights” or “civil rights” in the government section of your area phone book. Under Title VII, you must file a complaint with the EEOC and obtain a “right to sue” letter from the agency before you can file a lawsuit.

You may also want to consult with an attorney about going to court. You should keep in mind that legal actions may not be the perfect solution to sexual harassment. Finding an attorney may be difficult, especially if you need to hire the attorney on a contingency fee basis, so that the attorney gets reimbursed by your employer after winning the case. Law suits are also time-consuming, expensive, and often emotionally difficult. But if you are unable to obtain relief by confronting the harasser or pursuing internal procedures, taking legal action may be your best recourse. Although it is not necessary to have an attorney in order to bring a legal claim, it is extremely helpful. Be persistent when trying to find an attorney.

12. How much time do I have to file a sexual harassment complaint?

There are important time limits that apply to sexual harassment claims. If you are relying on Title VII, you have 180 days, or six months, from the date of the last incident of harassment to file a complaint with the EEOC or your state fair employment practices agency. There are some exceptions to this time limit: in some states, the time limit is 300 days, while federal and state employees often face time limits as short as 30 days. Using internal company procedures does not extend the time limit under federal law, although it may under some state laws. If you are relying on Title VII, contact the EEOC to find out the time limit that applies to you. If you are relying in state law, contact the state fair employment practices agency. You do not need an attorney to file a complaint with the EEOC, although a lawyer’s assistance may be helpful. It is best to file any complaints promptly, because if charges are filed beyond the applicable time limits, you may not be able to obtain any legal remedy to the harassment.

13. What can I expect if I decide to take legal action?

The first step is filing a complaint with the EEOC or a state or local fair employment practices agency, which you must do before you can bring a court case. This is generally how cases are handled by the EEOC:

Filing the complaint. You do need not a lawyer to file one, although an attorney’s assistance may be helpful. The complaint can be in the form of a letter and does not have to be in legal language. Remember that there are time limits on filing complaints, so file quickly and consult the agency to get the limit that applies to you.
Investigation. The EEOC or state agency will interview witnesses and collect evidence relating to your complaint. If you have already been through an internal investigation at your company, some of this may be repetitious. If you request confidentiality, the EEOC will keep your identity secret, though most state agencies will not.
Determination. After the investigation, the agency will decide whether there is reasonable cause to believe you have been illegally harassed. If it decides that there is reasonable cause, it will attempt to informally settle the case with your employer. If you are not satisfied with the settlement reached, the next step is a lawsuit. If the EEOC cannot reach an acceptable settlement, it may decide to file suit on your behalf, although that is unusual. More commonly, the agency will issue you a “right to sue” letter, allowing you to bring your own lawsuit.

If the agency decides that there is not reasonable cause, it will issue a “no cause” finding with a “right to sue” letter, which means the investigation did not find enough evidence to believe that you can prove a case of illegal harassment. You may appeal a “no cause” finding, or you may file a lawsuit in court. Receiving a “no cause” determination does not mean that you have not been not sexually harassed; many women have won in court after receiving a no-cause finding from the EEOC or state agency.

Getting your “right to sue” letter without waiting for a determination. Although a determination by the agency is supposed to be issued within 180 days after you file your claim, many such offices have a backlog of complaints and take much longer to complete an investigation and issue a determination. If you want to file a suit and do not want to wait longer than 180 days, you may ask the agency to issue you a “right to sue” letter, which stops the investigation and allows you to go straight to court.

Going to court. Once you have received a “right to sue” letter, you have the right to file a lawsuit in court. You must file your lawsuit within 90 days of receiving your “right to sue” letter. If you have not yet found an attorney and are nearing the end of the 90-day period, you may want to file a complaint yourself (this is called a “pro se” filing) and continue your search for an attorney. If you continue to be unable to find one, you may want to ask the court to appoint an attorney for you.

August, 2000

No Bed of Roses

As I write this, I realise I have suffered sexual harassment more than once.

In Childhood

I was sexually assaulted by a neighbor man when I was seven. I told my mother about it a month or so after the incident. She called my father and the police. I remember having to tell the policeman over and over again about what had taken place. The man was present during my telling of the story. Then I was sent to bed. After that, every time there was any thing involving a child in our town, the police went to the neighbor man’s house.

As a Married Woman

Around the age of 35, I went to a doctor for a hip-related issue and he insisted on giving me a breast exam. I remember breaking out in a cold sweat during the exam and feeling very unsettled. When I got home, I told my husband and then I called my primary care doctor and complained. The next time I saw my primary care doc, I noticed the other doc no longer had an office in the building.

Shocked and Silent

While there are resources and help for workplace harassment, one also runs the risk of being ‘black balled’ by your industry, to a point that you will never work again within said industry. I understand why women hesitate to turn in a boss or to file a suit for sexual harassment.

Maybe it’s part of our DNA that we don’t fight back. Maybe it’s because of messages from  fathers saying, “You must be doing something to encourage him.” Maybe it’s the ‘good ol’ boys’ who have convinced us and everyone else to believe for too long that ‘she deserved it.”

I understand why it takes real courage to take that action. I understand why women remain silent. But, the only way to stop sexual harassment is to ban together and REFUSE to be treated this way and teach our husbands, sons and daughters to refuse to perpetrate, excuse or accept it too! Shout it out! NO MORE SEXUAL HARASSMENT!!!!!!!!!!!!


2 thoughts on “Legal definition of sexual assault

  1. Cathy – I’m certain this was a difficult post to write, revealing much of your own experience with sexual assault and harassment. You must know, that it’s also difficult to read, even for a guy (also a child of the ’60’s). It’s made all the more uncomfortable by the litigious nature of the issue – it’s tough at times to accept that necessity, but to also accept the possibility of some abuses to the system. Few male employers or supervisors haven’t considered just how quickly their lives and careers might be completely undone by an unfounded charge of sexual harassment or assault. The entire situation seems to further isolate and divide us, for fear of being misunderstood, or of unrealized guilt, or even deliberate perjury. Yet even now, the reality is that it’s all far too common, and therefore needs that kind of muscle and strength to be at all effective.

    I suspect we’ll all be revisiting this issue a number of times prior to the election, as a certain orange-tinted candidate seems to blatantly flaunt both the spirit and the letter of the legislation.

    I can only hope that more women and men continue to discuss and support the law, and the end of this sort of abuse. Thanks for nudging me to get me thinking about it again.

    • Hi Gerry, Thank you for taking the time to read the post and make a comment. It was a very difficult post to write, but I felt it was important. If just one woman or man, as you, decides to keep the issue in the foreground, and insists on keeping the avenues open for submitting complaints about abuse by people in positions of power over another individual, then I feel as if I’ve done a little ‘good’.

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